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Unconventional Interventions. The Mantra: Don’t Do a Number on Anyone and Don’t Let Anyone Do a Number on You

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Unconventional Interventions. The Mantra: Don’t Do a Number on Anyone and Don’t Let Anyone Do a Number on You

While the focus of this book is about keeping the exchange of feelings between members flowing in a psychoanalytic treatment group, it is intended to be of use for all emotionally significant interactions, whether in therapy or between people in their real lives. Many of my group patients have an objection to what they call ‘bad’ feelings. They would prefer to keep only the ‘good’ ones. But like most things in life, emotions exist as dualities and there are really no such things as good and bad feelings—just feelings. For better or worse, it’s a package deal. I tell my groups that in order to fully experience the good feelings, bad feelings need to be tolerated and understood. It’s not so much having feelings as it is what one does with them. It’s possible to have all one’s feelings but choose which feelings to act on. Hence the heading- ‘Don’t Do a Number on Anyone and Don’t Let Anyone Do a Number on You’. It simply means that to have successful interpersonal relationships, it’s imperative to distinguish thoughts from feelings and to foster positive and constructive dialogues even when unpleasant feelings exist between people.

There are some group members who don’t distinguish their feelings from the thoughts and in an attempt to control the interaction, do a number. For example, many years ago as a member of a therapy group, a female member that was angry with me said,” I feel that you’re crazy”. I responded,” You may be right but that’s not a feeling”. The leader supported me and concurred and said to her,” That’s your diagnosis, not your feeling”. In that way, she was doing a number on me.

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